Reminiscing Happy Memories
A certain smell hits your nose or a nostalgic song comes on the radio and BAM… you are there, in a memory. Some memories are great and some, not so much; regardless, I’m sure you can relate to the power of them. A vivid memory can prompt feelings, thoughts, physicality, and ignite our senses and this is exactly why we can learn to utilize our past memories for good use in the present.
Research shows that reminiscing about positive memories can enhance mood, regulate emotions, reduce the stress response, and can help us be more resilient. Remembering a past event can be used to rekindle the same emotion in the present. Positive memories can help create hope for the future, resulting in a more optimistic perspective. Here are some ways to reminisce:
Share a memory with a friend or family
Nothing beats sharing pleasant memories with others who can relate. Play “remember when…” the next time you are with someone you care about.
Personal reflection or journaling
Taking time to revel in a positive memory or even write it down can be useful as a coping skill.
Look through old photos and videos
Some photos you see and you can’t help but smile. Whether it is old photo albums, scrolling through social media posts, or finding some in your drive, seeing photos can be a fun trip down memory lane. Perhaps it's time to bring back #throwbackthursday or #flashbackfriday to engage with others about the fun time.
Daily routine
Whether it is reviewing what you felt joyful about that day as you drift off to sleep or setting time aside to reminisce, making it a habit can be helpful.
Thank you note
Gratitude is also powerful so why not combine the two and send a letter to someone you have a shared memory with… research shows it helps you and them.
Interrupt negative thoughts
Use your happy memories as a coping tool to combat negative thinking patterns. When you catch yourself thinking negatively, insert a pleasant memory. Making the choice to focus on the positive has a profound impact.
When is it too much?
We have all idealized the past at some point. Nostalgia is not to be confused with comparison. When we go into comparison, we can easily convince ourselves something was greater than it was. We can use reminiscing as a tool but let’s not live in the past because we have our whole life ahead of us!
“We didn’t realize we were making memories, we just knew we were having fun.” Pooh
You are making your future memories now, here are some tips to remember the good ones:
Staying present
Have you ever stepped back, taken a pause, and thought… this moment right here is incredible. If you have, you probably remember it. If you haven’t, try it out! Being present helps solidify memories.
Engage your senses
Our senses can be a gateway to memorable moments in our lives so savor the taste of your favorite dish and mindfully take in the smell of your next travel destination. Activating your five senses can help you stay present too.
Try something new
We all remember our first kiss, go try something you have never done before and you will probably remember it for years to come!
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As a true therapist at heart, I’ll leave you with a challenge. Instead of using only “happy” memories, use other pleasant emotions as prompts too. Grab your journal and write a memory of when you felt: courageous, proud, accepted, peaceful, free, joyful, confident, valued, creative, inspired, loved, playful, powerful, or in awe. Run with it!
Happy Reminiscing!
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